Once, in grad school, a friend and I had planned to go out for a beer (or, in his case, a Diet Coke–he didn’t drink). He met me at my apartment and we went to the bar across the street, but first I had to finish a paragraph in a story I was writing. When I told him this, he was taken aback: “You can write at night?” he said. “I can write any time. Especially if I’m inspired.” “I can only write in the morning,” he said. “And even then it’s a struggle.”
Or something like that. (You know, in nonfiction, you can use dialog that isn’t verbatim.)
So I finished the paragraph and we got our drinks and we talked some more about our writing processes. He was a very structured writer who like to research his work extensively and used very specific ideas and themes to jump start his stories. He took joy in having finished writing, but not necessarily the writing itself–a position that all writers find themselves in at least some of the time. But I found it interesting that he had such strong ideas about when he could and couldn’t write. At the time, I found myself writing whenever I had a free moment; grad school provided masses of inspiration and time frames in which to complete stories.
Nowadays, however, I relate to my friend. It’s hard to step out of whatever you’re doing and into the world of your fiction. And lately, I’ve been doing a lot. Blogging, sewing, going to estate sales, listing things on Etsy, drawing, baking, entertaining, shopping, cleaning, exercising–and all that jammed into whatever crannies of time I can find in a full day of caring for my kids. I’d love to add writing fiction to that pile more regularly, but it’s markedly more difficult than any of the items listed above, even the more creative ones. It requires a certain head space. It requires discipline. It requires you to use your brain.
But I’ve been thinking lately about the time I have to write. Mostly I write in my shed (have I blogged about that? I’ll have to blog about that.) but I could work on the desktop in the house; I blog there quite often (it has one of those lovely huge screens so I can put some silly songs or an episode of Paw Patrol on one side of the screen and the WordPress site on the other). And blogging is writing–it’s just not as creative and, since I don’t have to get into character, it’s easier to jump in and out of (do you “get into character” when you write fiction? That’s the only way I can describe it.)
But enough with the excuses. I’m going to start fitting it in, even if only in five minute bursts.
Kids are playing quietly?
Kids are playing loudly but nobody’s killing each other?
Kids didn’t notice you went to the bathroom and you’re actually alone on the throne?
See what I mean? It’s totally doable, and I’m going to start doing it.
Of course, I usually use these time slots to clean a bathroom, sew a seam, start dinner, et cetera. There will be some negotiation involved. But it’s not impossible. And the bathrooms look fine. And I can use my slow cooker more often. So I’ll figure it out (and I’ll keep you posted!(